Seeing posts on social media about 2020 being the year of introverts and funny memes got me thinking. Why am I taking this lockdown better than others? Could I be introverted and I didn’t even know it?
Curious about how I would fit in this spectrum, I dived more in-depth into the differences between an introvert and an extrovert. I quickly learned that it’s not strictly black and white. Some of us could be extroverted with a sprinkle of introversion and vice versa.
I thought I was an Introvert at first, seeing how introverts can spend time alone and adapt to this change without going crazy. My extroverted friends definitely struggled with having limited social time over the last months. I’ve kept that in mind and checked on them to make sure they were doing ok.
After reading more into this subject and reflecting on my actions, it turns out that I’m comfortable with both. It just depends on the situation I’m in. And that my friends is what an Ambivert is.
During the pandemic, I’ve learned that being an Ambivert comes with many advantages. Number one? The relatively easy transition from constantly going out and being around people to being at home.
Overall, I enjoyed having a better understanding of the personality trait that I belong to. It helped me with knowing how to avoid environments that drain my energy. It helped me understand the people in my life better and be less judgmental and more aware.
Let’s do our best to understand our differences and not to judge others just because they don’t fit into a certain box.
It’s easy to place one another into boxes — extroverted or introverted. I don’t like to label myself or others — it just creates unnecessary expectations and assumptions.
Let me give you an example. You’re at a dinner party. You’re an introvert, but you feel safe here, and someone is asking you brilliant questions that are drawing you out — you’re lively and talkative. Weeks later, you’re with the same people and you’re quiet, withdrawn. You’d rather just listen, but they see you as rude. You’re being judged.
This post is not to say that one is better than the other, but that they’re different from one another. And again labelling yourself is not the way to go in my opinion—it will probably keep you in a fixed mindset, which may prevent you from pushing yourself to get out of your comfort zone and try new things.
The Myers Briggs Test:
There’s so much information about this topic out there, and yet, when you look into what people have to say, it seems to be a unique experience from one person to another.
If you want to dive more into learning about yourself, I suggest taking the Myers Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) test. This test comprises a series of questions that will determine what type of personality you have, it will help in personal development and in understanding yourself better. Just be sure to be as honest as you can with your answers. I’ve done it for fun, and, as I mentioned earlier, I’m an ambivert 🙂
HERE are some things you’d want to know about Introverts, Extroverts, and Ambiverts:
If you’re interested in learning more about being introverts, extroverts and ambiverts and to figure out ways to use this knowledge to your advantage, then I recommend you check out:
The Surprising Benefits of Being an Introvert from Time magazine. It’s simple and to the point. I really enjoyed it and could relate to it in many ways.
What is an Ambivert? Take the Quiz to See if You’re an Introvert, Extrovert or Ambivert from the website www.scienceofpeople.com, I highly recommend you check out this website.
What is Extroversion and the Advantages of Being an Extrovert, here’s another one from the website www.scienceofpeople.com
Here’s a list of books for introverts you can also check out:
The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength by Dr Jennifer Kahnweiler
Introvert Power: Why Your Hidden Life is Your Hidden Strength by Dr Laurie Helgoe
I would’ve loved to suggest books for Extroverts and Ambiverts but I’m not sure if there is any good book out there for these personality traits, I could find many articles but not books.
Finally, I think that whether you’re an introvert, extrovert or ambivert, knowing which personality trait you belong to can give you a big advantage in understanding your strengths and weaknesses, working on yourself and pushing yourself further.
You might want to try to step out of your comfort zone, get out there and connect with people if you’re an introvert.
You might want to look out for toxic people and do fewer things that drain your energy if you’re an ambivert.
You might want to learn that other people don’t have the same energy as you and you’ll try to understand them better if you’re an extrovert.
Understanding the differences between these personalities can help us get along with others and get the best out of ourselves and everyone around us. It’s a win-win 🙂
What are more advantages to being introverts, extroverts or ambiverts? Let’s talk in the comments!
Until next time…